Am I Being Abused?
Remember in case of an emergency always dial 911 for police assistance first!
If you want to report an incident of abuse call the non-emergency police assistance number: 915-832-4400
If you are fearful of the situation at home call the Emergency shelter crisis hotline for assistance with transportation to a confidential shelter: 915-593-7700
Victims can be of any age, sex, race, culture, religion, education, employment or marital status. Although both men and women can be abused, most victims are women. It is important to remember that women can also be abusers and men can be victims. Sometimes it is hard, confusing, and embarrassing to admit to yourself and others that you are in an abusive relationship.
The following signs can help you to know if you are being abused. Tell someone you trust if the person you love or live with does any of the following:
- Monitors what you're doing all the time
- Is very jealous and/or spies on you
- Will not let you break off the relationship
- Criticizes you for little things
- Puts you down or makes you feel bad
- Constantly accuses you of being unfaithful
- Prevents or discourages you from seeing friends or family, or going to work or school
- Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs
- Controls how you spend your money /Keeps or takes your paycheck
- Controls your use of needed medicines
- Humiliates you in front of others
- Destroys your property or things that you care about
- Forces you to have sex or makes you afraid to say no to sex
- Blames you for his or her violent outbursts
- Hurts you in any way, is violent, or brags about hurting other people
- Abuses drugs or alcohol; pressures you to use drugs or alcohol
- Has a history of bad relationships and blames it on others
- Pushes, hits, slaps, chokes, kicks, or bites you
- Threatens you, your children, other family members or pets
- Threatens suicide to get you to do something
- Uses or threatens to use a weapon against you
- Keeps you from seeing your friends, family or from going to work
On the other hand, this is what to look for in a healthy relationship:
- Respect
- Trust
- Support
- Kindness
- Individuality
- Acceptance
- Listening
- Communication
- Equality/Fairness
Help and Resources
Center Against Family Violence
http://www.cafv.org/
915-593-7300
El Paso Police Department
http://www.ci.el-paso.tx.us/police/default.asp
915-832-4400
Texas Council on Family Violence
http://www.tcfv.org/
The Nationals Women Health Information Center
800-994-9662 TDD: 888-220-5446
http://www.womenshealth.gov/
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1.800.799.SAFE (7233) 1.800.787.3224 (TTY)
http://www.thehotline.org/
The National Abuse Dating Hotline
1-866-331-9474 | 1-866-331-8453 TTY
http://www.loveisrespect.org/
Love Good Bad Ugly (Teen Dating)
http://lovegoodbadugly.com/